Many people can actually say they love their partner but know in their hearts that it's not enough. Being in love doesn't pay the bills and it sure doesn't fix your credit score.
I love to ask questions like:
"Would you prefer a partner who's hot with a big member with an ok job and no savings or a partner that is smaller with good credit?"
Yes i know the question is not really fair to the second half, but in my personal experience men with big members usually come with bad credit. I am not saying that everyman with a big one has bad credit but a lot don't have it all figured out. Also not every guy with a small one has good credit either.
What I am saying is in my experience men who wanted to give me the world wanted things I was not ready for at that time. Then there were men who had some of the qualities I was looking for but were no where near settling.
Too many times when the conversation of men and relationships comes up, the common theme is they are lacking something. I've heard they don't help around the house, they don't cook, clean or help out with the kids. The worst ones are, "He doesn't please me sexually, it's not big and I'm ok with that."
"No wonder I'm single everyone chose to settle and I haven't! "
To love some one and except some flaws is ok but to be burdened with the house work, raising children and not having sexual pleasure is not what I'm looking for.
I believe in a 50/50 or 60/40 and even 80/20 when one is sick type of partnership, but to get the shit end of the stick is not what my ancestors wanted from me and its not what I want for any woman.
"Who made these rules saying the woman work is cooking and cleaning. A man probably..."
Look I know there will be women who are in love with their partners who will not agree with me and thats fine you have your own opinions and experiences I have mine.
You and I are not the same, but I my dear want a man who is self sufficient.
THAT MEANS HE DOES NOT NEED ME AND I DO NOT NEED HIM... but we want to be with each other because it makes us happy.
Being together out of respect and pure adoration.
Giving The Bare Minimum, is choosing not to give the best you. When you act selflessly you receive so much more. I am not trying to bash men but I will not enable boys who think they are men and can't care for them selves. If one of us cooks the other should help with the dishes. It's teamwork.
I want to look good, be healthy, have a clean home, a warm meal in my belly, stay hydrated, be told that I am beautiful, feel appreciated, know my worth, have things fixed when they break down, peace of mind, tranquility, lots of money in my bank accounts, amazing credit, a house, land, great relationship with friends and family...
Am I asking for too much?
Not once did I say I wanted a man to give it to me. This is my journey and if aspire to achieve these outcomes, sure enough I'm going to get them! I don't want to do it alone having help will be reciprocated and appreciated. But shame on you if you distract me from achieving these things. I want this for you, for me, for him, and for her I want us to have it all
Equality is what I'm preaching
Give your best, be your best, and do not settle my darlings
just compromise...
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